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Stop Judging


Has anyone ever wondered what it is to be a working mother, with a toddler tucked away in a day care? I have often heard people delivering their “uncalled for advice” about “Why don’t you get your parents or in laws for help?”, “Why don’t you hire a full time maid? “. Some go as far as, Why don’t you take a break“. I have even had some, so called ‘well advisors’ who have cited examples of their wives, who had quit their jobs just so that they could take care of their baby. Amongst all these, has anyone ever tried walking a day in my shoe? Has anyone ever tried to think, what if she was not lucky enough to have a support system in place? What if she really wanted to raise her kid all by herself? What if she wanted to work? What if she didn’t want to lose her identity? What if she wanted to help her husband with the increasing expenses?

Somewhere in between all these why don’t you’s and what if’s, the girl is lost. The girl, who worked, as hard as any of her fellow classmates in college, so that she could brag a job in a high paying MNC. The girl, who worked as hard as any of her colleague, to get to where she was now. The girl, whose heart tore each morning, when she woke up her half sleeping baby, so that she would not get late to office. The girl, who loved to sneak a peek into the always opened   tab on the web browser, that played the live streaming of the day care. The mother, who was forced to leave her sick baby with the father, since she, had an important meeting to attend. Mark my words “FORCED”. Yes, it tore her heart to leave an ailing baby home and rush of to work. The mother, who tried to keep up a brave face in a male dominated office, just so that she would not be mocked behind her back and be referred as “O she has just taken life easy. She would soon quit”. The mother, who prefers to bunk office just to be able to be a part of her kids special days. A mother, who is constantly judged in office for having a BABY. When the hot shots of her office leave no chance to badge her as an under performer.  Things get worse when you get compared to other lady associates who have support systems in place. Or even have elder kids. Or kids who are not so mischievous. Situations are not the same for all. No two kids are same.

Does anyone think twice, before realising that their so called successful career would be nowhere near to what it was, if he had to juggle half the things, that we working mothers do? It’s easier to think that it is a cake walk to raise a kid, when you have all support systems in place and/or are just luck enough to have everything sorted out since your wife chose to quit her job just so that she could raise the kids.

How to do you counter them? You don’t. At a point of time, you stop fighting. You just realise, that some people are too used to the privileged comforts that have been bestowed upon them or just take women to be a child birthing and a child raising machine.

Why is it always necessary that every woman in this industry has to follow the same trend?  Why is it even always necessary that we have our parents or in-laws to look after the kids? Why can’t the father and mother work together to take care of the child?

But don’t be surprised when I say that this is just not limited to guys. I have had, women, the house wives, who laugh and say, “Oh you are lucky that you don’t have to handle a kid all day”. I mean does anyone realise that after putting in more than 8 hours at office, when one comes back, there is a kid waiting for you, just to hog onto all ounces of your attention. The kid wants to share all his/her stories with you, wants you to play with his/her favorite game, wants you to play hide and seek with them. Wants you to tell them stories and so on.

It’s never easy. Never easy, to be a mom. Never easy to being the chef, consoler, story teller, play pal and an constant entertainer at the same time. So my friends, be a little sensitive and stop sneering at any working mother who is struggling to keep up a brave face and strike a balance between work and personal life. Stop being judgemental and passing comments on her chosen preferences of raising up her kid. Your choices might not be same but that doesn’t make her choices wrong. If someone is struggling, give her the credit that she is at least trying and has not decided that it is a lost battle. Give her the credit that she is trying to raise kids who learn to respect women, who do not take it for granted that women are only there to cooks and raise kids.


Tales of Goa — Day 1


Goa, the party destination of most Indian, a must go place for most youngsters. Goa’s distinctive Portuguese heritage, natural beauty, buzzing night-life and culinary scene makes for a heady mix that’s known to have drawn people back time and again.

We had never been able to make it so far but this time we were determined. In fact so determined, that I took to my superstitious ways of not telling people about the journey lest it becomes jinxed. I even barred hubby dear from doing any rnd on Goa.

So all we had were to n from tickets from Goa, a reservation at the Charlston Beach Resort and a car booked to pick us up from the airport.

And yes we made it this time. On the destined morning we took our flight to GOA !!

We had planned to visit North Goa this time and South Goa will have to wait for some other time.


Our resort was located on an isolated stretch between Calangute and Baga. Located with Calangute on the left and Baga on the right, it was a pleasant spot to be in. The resort had all basic amenities and was one that would not pinch your pocket.




Our first job was to hire a local car. We got in touch with a guy whose number we had come across on net and rented a WagonR.

Car booked and all we were all set to go beach hopping. Oh I forgot to mention hubby dear had plans of fishing as well. So a quick stop at the local market place and after a purchase of some small shrimps, we hit the road. We headed south towards Candolim beach and Aguada fort.


Fort Aguada was a Portuguese fort and is now protected by the Archaeological Society of India. The Fort is very well maintained and gathers a huge crowd, both locals and foreigners. There is no fee to view this fort. The timings are from 8:30 AM to 5:30 PM.


The fort is divided into upper Aguada Fort and lower Aguada fort. A nice view of the Arabian sea can be obtained from the upper fort.


The Fort is not tall in height also there is a moat to enter the fort. Next to the upper Aguada fort is a lighthouse which can also be visited. Make sure to enter the fort before 5:30 PM. They lock it up thereafter. Sinquerim beach lies close to lower Fort Aguada and is silent when compared to other North Goa beaches. This is not yet commercialized, no shacks or restaurant on the beach yet .Near this beach, there is the famous Taj Vivanta hotel.




We decided to call it a day and return to our resort. After a quick dip in the sea we headed for dinner. Britto’s would be the destination. We ordered for some jumbo lobster and king fish. The food was quite nice and the ambience was also very pleasant. Over all the place was quite suitable for both bachelors as well as family.




Go KL city Bus – A smarter way to travel


Travelling in KL can be economic. Try out the Go KL routes available to help you travel through the city for free.

Go KL is focused on areas with high demands, especially those by employees and tourists. There are more than 100 office blocks near the designated stops for employees’ convenience. Go KL also reaches more than 14 shopping centres, more than 30 hotels, 10 education institutes, more than 8 religious buildings, and 14 tourist attractions. Go KL also stops at more than 5 public transport hubs.

Go KL is a FREE Bus service for the time being.

The buses are equipped with disabled facilities and FREE Wifi.

There are four lines :

Green Line  : KLCC – Bukit Bintang (14 stops / 45 mins)
Purple Line : Pasar Seni – Bukit Bintang (15 stops / 60 mins)
Blue Line     : Medan Mara – Bukit Bintang (17 stops / 45 mins)
Red Line      : KL Sentral – Jalan Tuanku Abdul Rahman (19 stops / 60 mins)

Operations hours for all lines are :

Monday – Thursday : 6am – 11pm
Friday – Saturday     : 6am – 1am
Sunday                       : 7am – 11am

The frequency for all lines is 5 minutes during peak hours, 10 minutes during non-peak hours and 15 minutes for normal hours.

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Aquaria KLCC


With nothing much to do for the day and after hearing a lot about the KLCC Aquaria, I though of venturing out to have a look at this place.  Situated inside the KLCC underpass tunnel connecting the Suria KLCC to the Kuala Lumpur Convention Centre, this place is not hard to find.


Aquaria KLCC Entrance Fees

With MyKad / MyKid Non MyKad / MyKid
CHILD (3-12 years old) RM28 RM40
(60 years and above)
RM28 RM30

A bit steep considering the time spent inside. It is actually quite small and we left within 15 minutes. Good experience for kids though.

There are quite a few other package programs that one could opt for like dive with sharks and others. The place is remains open 7 days a week between 10:30 AM to 8PM.

To be frank anyone who has had the opportunity to visit the Dubai Aquarium would certainly not like the place. If you go there with large hope you will become frustrated.Its an average aquaria. The area is not so large. There’s also a conveyor walk so it helps to keep people moving. Other than that the rest of the aquarium is okay at best. The aquarium really doesn’t have anything that is unique or gives it that ” wow” factor. It has the usual under water tunnel with some sharks and rays. It also has an area where you can pet some if the star fish and such.

I would definitely not suggest this place as a must do in Kuala Lumpur.






Puttu- The traditional Keralite breakfast


Pattu- The traditional Keralite breakfast

Visiting Kerala and not having the famous Puttu for breakfast would certainly be a crime in itself. Well I had committed this crime a number of times but this time I was not going to repeat the same. I was truly amazed with the taste and texture of this simple yet fulfilling dish.
Puttu is made by slowly adding water to ground rice until the correct texture is achieved. It is then spiced, formed and steamed with layers of grated coconut.
Puttu is generally cooked in a metal puttu kutti vessel with two sections. The lower section holds water and the upper section holds the puttu — where the rice mixture is inserted with layers of grated coconut. Perforated lids separate the sections to allow the steam to pass between them.
A number of alternative cooking vessels are used, such as traditional vessels where a perforated coconut shell is attached to a section of bamboo, or a chiratta puttu made of a coconut shell or of metal shaped similarly to a coconut shell.